Domestic abuse is when you are controlled, bullied or threatened by your partner or a family member and abuse can be mental, emotional, psychological, sexual or financial.
It doesn’t happen to one kind of person either – women and men of all classes, ages and backgrounds can suffer abuse.
There are ways of recognising abuse:
- He/she criticises you and puts you down
- He/she treats you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see
- He/she ignores or puts down your opinions or accomplishments
- He/she blames you for their own abusive behaviour
- He/she sees you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person
So how do you get help?
If you are in imminent danger, ring the police on 999
To get help from Bromley Women’s Aid for yourself call 020 8313 9303 (Monday to Friday, 9-4.30 pm) or email email@example.com
To get help outside of our office hours, ring the National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247.
The national Women’s Aid website has fantastic pages with information about refuges, specialist refuges and help – just select the area you need information about.
If you are using the BWA website or the national Women’s Aid website you can click a button in the top right hand side of the screen to hide the visit from your browser history.
Bromley Women’s Aid focus on maintaining the independence, confidence and self-esteem of anyone that they help and are responsive to the needs of individuals in a culturally appropriate and sensitive way and will endeavour to treat their residents, clients, staff and partners with integrity, honesty and respect.
This ethos has served them and the women they help very well in the times since they began 40 years ago.
2 women a week are killed by a partner or an ex partner yet:
- on a single day in 2013 155 women and 103 children were turned away from refuges because there was no room;
- since 2013 there has been a 30% drop in the number of refuges accepting emergency overnight referrals;
- 32 refuges have closed in the last four years and many are under threat
in 2012/13 15,404 women were living in refuges across England.
“Without more funding women will die. We need a long term funding solution and we will put the pressure on until we have one.”
So how can you help?
Community groups, churches, businesses and business groups all help with more than just money.
Many of these groups will come into contact with individuals suffering from domestic abuse so by being informed and helping support the work that BWA mean these people have vital means to access the help they need.
If your organisation is concerned about the effects of Domestic Abuse and would like to help then please consider any or all of the following:
- Keep information about the work that BWA does available
- Invite a BWA staff member to speak at a meeting
- Help with in-kind donations
- Make a financial gift
- Organise a fundraising event
- Nominate BWA your Charity of the Year
If you’re not a member of an organisation and you’d like to make a donation then £25 will help pay for the telephone helpline, £50 will pay for a week’s food for a mother and her children entering a Refuge with no money and no immediate access to benefits and £75 will help provide a school session reaching an average of 26 children and their teachers
You can also give by text – just text BRWA07 plus your donation (eg. BRWA07 £5) to 70070
If you feel that you’d like to give some time to help BWA then you can see how to become a volunteer or other ways of being involved here.
Once again, those all important telephone numbers:
Bromley Women’s Aid – 020 8313 9303
National Domestic Abuse Hotline – 0808 2000 247